Tag Archives: Respect

    The Plight of the Employer

“Finding qualified people is nearly impossible!” A friend of mine, a business owner stated very emphatically. He was very frustrated that his latest hire was not the promising employee he had hoped for.

For the last few months, I have focused my writing on the entry-level employee. My efforts have been aimed at helping young people understand what they are missing and what they will need to compete in the American job market. This month I decided to change things up and direct my attention to the employers. I turned to  H. Roy Austin, author, CPA, business coach, MBA, etc., etc. He is a very accomplished professional, whom I had the privilege of meeting at a BNI© meeting. This is an organization that many businesses should belong to and is a topic for a different day.

During my initial contact with Coach, I asked him what the top three errors business owners make with respect to their employees. He answered the following: 1) No defining the foundation of the company.  Who you are, what you believe in, how you operate. 2) Hiring based only on education and/or experience. 3) Not being transparent.  People need to know what the score is in the game.

During our video conference interview Coach Roy unpacked these thoughts. In a nutshell, Coach has found that too many businesses fail to define their culture to new prospects. They fail to explain the foundation, the fundamental purpose of their business. In his words, “Are they excited about your vision, do they believe in your purpose, do they share your values and are they comfortable with your operating procedures?” Those who are in sync: both employer and employee will most likely fit. Employees who are in sync with your vision, purpose, values and operating procedures are more likely to stay.

Another important point that Coach Roy made was this, “Star employees can always find another job; however the mediocre and poor employees can’t so they will stay.” This being the case the question now becomes where does an employer begin to make a transition to change the culture of his or her enterprise. Coach Roy gave me a very simple answer. Begin with a self-assessment. Begin with looking in the mirror and ask yourself am I the sort of person I would work for? This is a difficult assignment. One which most people will not do. All too often we become creatures of habit. We continue to do things the same old way because this is what we are comfortable with.

At the end of the day, we must accept responsibility for our professionalism or lack thereof. We are what we have developed ourselves to be. Coach shared a quote with me that I believe is worth repeating:

“We’ve each been given a bag of tools, a formless rock, and a book of rules;

And each must make ere life is flown, a stumbling block or a stepping stone.”

Walt Whitman

Owning a business is a difficult task. It is not for the faint of heart. Today’s employment market complicates matters even more. However, there is a solid way to staff and run a successful business. Do that self-assessment today and start working on the culture you wish to have at your business.


To reach Coach H. Roy Austin visit his website at https://www.rockwellbusinesssolutions.com

Or his new website http://alligatorbusinesssolution.com

Or email him at rockwell@hargray.com






The Role Model

Parents are always role models. You are a generation ahead of your offspring and therefore are always in the next phase of life. However, it is important that you behave your age and fulfill your role properly.

The age of your children is irrelevant. They will always look up to you. You don’t have to know everything about present day technology. It is your wisdom they seek. Whether you are a good or a bad role model is your choice.

Surviving the Great Uprising

Adolescence will seem, for most parents, like the time of the great uprising. Herein, all the moral values you have taught and modeled will matter the most. The opposite is also true. The values you failed to teach and model will come back to haunt you.

As in the case of one mother who asked me during the question and answer session, after I gave a speech, what she should do since she had never set down any rules for her child. The short answer: set some rules and hang on for the ride. The long answer: WW III is about to begin at your place. Good luck.

Courtroom Advice

Appearing before a judge with a bad attitude will most certainly not produce the results you expected. As incredulous as it may seem, there are those who actually have appeared in court with an attitude and expected the matter to be resolved in their favor.

Once I remember a young man grumbling out loud that he needed to go. He was in a hurry. So the judge called his case, relieved him of his driving privileges and sent him on his way. Another time a woman slammed the door on her way out and was quickly escorted back into the courtroom. She stayed the night a guest of the county jail.

Passive Parenting and Teens

Passive parenting rarely produces teenagers who are problem solvers. When it does it was accidental. If anything, passive parenting serves to produce teens who feel that they are entitled to get their way. These are the youngsters who will behave as if they know more than their boss who happens to have years of experience.

In my experience, I have witnessed this scenario play out dozens of times. The teen openly defies the boss, is fired or reprimanded, but still fails to understand his or her place in the great scheme of things. They go home, complain to their passive parent, who in turn does not set them straight with some actual parenting. Instead this weak parent will call the boss to try to smooth things over for their offspring.

Lessons in a Courtroom

A day in court can emphasize the need to have purpose in your life. For many of my middle class friends the idea that one needs to have purpose in one’s life is a no-brainer. It’s one of those statements that will be met with a sarcastic remark. Something along the lines of, “no kidding,” or worse.

This is not the case for many of the young men and young women I have seen in court. Far too many live in state of stunted animation. There is no planning for a better tomorrow. What comes along, comes along. For many that something is idle time, which indeed is the devil’s workshop. Even if there are thoughts of a goal there is no hurry. Entertainment is king and so goals can wait.

Communication & Relationships

Communication is the most vital part of a relationship. Bad communication is better than none at all and yet many relationships do not work at communicating. Sometimes we behave as if we can put our relationship on autopilot and we will live in bliss with no effort. There is no such thing as auto pilot when it comes to relationship.

Most every relationship that is experiencing problems began with a breakdown in communication. It requires work, real work, to communicate effectively. The biggest problem we create is we believe that all the sweet talk we do at the beginning of a relationship is the norm. It isn’t. We are simply flirting or getting to know each other, finding common ground. Yes it feels good, but most of the time that sort of conversation is shallow.